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The surprising secret to productivity
The surprising secret to productivity

If you’re American, chances are that you’re bad at resting.


It’s not your fault; it’s deeply engrained in American culture that we need to “earn” our rests.


But we have it backwards.


We can’t expect to be productive in order to earn our rests; we actually NEED rest FIRST in order to be productive.

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A unique strategy for big feelings
A unique strategy for big feelings

This week, I’m thinking about the above quote I found via psychologist and author Nedra Tawwab.

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How to be lonely
How to be lonely

America is incredibly lonely, but social norms and the nature of loneliness, itself, can make it difficult for people to take the actions that make them feel more connected to others; loneliness can lead to a feedback loop in which feelings of isolation make you perceive the world in ways that lead you to feel even lonelier.


Since this leaves a lot of folks feeling trapped in their loneliness and unable to see a way out, we decided to develop some activities to help break the cycle.

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The four words that change the way people talk to you
The four words that change the way people talk to you

Imagine you’re hanging out with a friend.

 

You’ve been chatting for a bit, and they reveal something more vulnerable about themselves than they usually discuss with you. Maybe it’s admitting that they feel lonely at work, or maybe it’s talking about their history with depression. Whatever it is, it’s a level or two deeper than your usual conversations.

 

How do you respond?

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