Unless you were raised by Mr. Rogers, himself (content warning for some older ways of viewing gender 1:25-1:35), chances are that you didn’t get much education about how to cope with anger. Anger often comes with a sense of restless energy that won’t relent until it’s dealt with, but “dealing with it” in the way that might feel most natural could lead to bricks in windows, fists in walls, and other situations that might get you into more trouble than they’re worth. So, what’s a pissed off person to do? We’ve developed a simple-but-effective go-to strategy for when you’re feeling angry.

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How to calm down when everything is horrible

If you’re feeling like you’re struggling a little more than usual right now, you’re not alone.

As of writing this article, a lot of us are feeling burnt out from about a year of masking up, social distancing, and avoiding social gatherings.

Fortunately, there’s actually a physiological shortcut to calming down when you’re feeling anxious or angry.

It’s called the vagus nerve.

The vagus nerve helps bring your body back to homeostasis after it’s freaked out.

The nerve runs throughout your body and controls a ton of body functions, like digestion, blood vessel dilation/contraction, heart rate, breathing, and more.

So, when you activate your vagus nerve, you get your digestion to speed up and your heart rate to slow down.

The good news is that there are some neat (and possibly surprising) shortcuts to stimulating your vagus nerve!

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What to do about anger

Has your anger ever led to an action you regretted? Maybe you sent a text you didn’t feel great about, maybe some words came out of your mouth more harshly than you’d intended, or maybe your anger came out sideways and you spent some time silently fuming and distracted from your everyday life. Since anger can compel you to take action before thinking, it can be useful to have some tools ready for the next time you’re feeling peeved.

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