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BlogAllison ScharmannNovember 14, 2024reasons to smile, happiness, joy, coping, fun, self-care, self care, stress, stress reliefComment

Lessons From the Blue Zones

There’s no single way to live a healthy life, but people living in Blue Zones have a few ideas.

BlogAllison ScharmannOctober 10, 2024lifestyle, happiness, community, connection, stress, stress reduction, social connection, social bonds, conversationComment

10 Ways to Make Yourself Feel Better

Everybody has those days! Read on for some silly, sweet, and serious ways to cheer yourself up…

Allison ScharmannApril 4, 2024happiness, mental health, mindfullness, meditation, self care, joy, cheer, health, wellness, self love Comment

How to live with uncertainty

Life can feel so much safer and more comfortable when we’re living in black and white, so our brains tend to cope with uncertain situations by thinking in more black and white terms.

But unfortunately, living in black and white often robs us of the ability to see our reality accurately. And seeing our reality as we wish it were as opposed to how it actually is often leads us to behave in ways that aren’t likely to get us the things we really want, like safety, security, and connection.

So how can we shift our thinking to become more comfortable living in the gray space? I’ve come up with some specific tips.

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Why you need self-compassion in your life and how to do it (even when you don’t want to)

At Skip the Small Talks, we ask attendees to have compassion for others and for themselves as they try out new ways to hold conversations. It’s probably obvious why we care about people having compassion for each other at an event where strangers are getting to know each other for the first time, but equally if not more important in that context is self-compassion. That’s because any attempt at change or improvement generally goes much more smoothly if you’re not beating yourself up after every setback. Connecting genuinely often requires taking some risks (like sharing things that feel a little vulnerable), and having compassion for yourself when those risks don’t pan out the way you hope can help you continue taking some risks in the long-term, and can help make the learning process easier for you in the short-term.

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The fastest compatibility test you've never heard of

Okay, we’ll run with the title and make this quick. When someone new is entering your life, whether it’s a friend, a coworker, a romantic interest, or someone else you’re still figuring out how and to what extent you’d like to fit them into your life, try asking yourself:

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